Frida Kahlo

Sex and the City

“Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they need to run free, until they find someone just as wild to run with.”

Penn State- The Forgotten

I was inspired by a friend, whose blog you can visit (cuuuupcake.tumblr.com) , to write about the recent scandal at Penn State. (Check out her post, it has deeper insight!)

Yesterday, during my Principles of Marketing class, we were discussing the Penn State scandal, and Penn State as a brand, just as everyone else has. My professor asked the following questions: How will Penn State bounce back from this scandal? What can they do to repair their image? With these questions came responses such as they can sponsor a charity or organization that helps sexually abused children, they can try to reach out to the victims to offer support, etc. But these ideas were empty. Ideas that will create a facade just to help Penn State recover its image. An idea that doesn’t really care for the victims of the sexual abuse. This is the world we live in.

As stated on my friend’s blog, most news channels are only speaking on Penn State’s image. They’re not discussing the victims or offering advice to people who might be in similar situations. What if you are a child that is currently being abused sexually or has been raped? What if you are a colleague who has witnessed your coworkers sexually abusing children? How would this situation speak to you?

It seems America has become numb to the effects of rape and sexual abuse. Victims are continuously overlooked, especially when it becomes a front page story. The importance is focused on the brand or the image. Penn State will recover, sooner or later. But what about the victims? How have they recovered, or have they even recovered? I wish we could focus on that.

This blog post isn’t centered on womyn but it is a deep problem in our society that I think is significant enough to mention. We have become immune to the severity of rape and sexual abuse. The effects can only cut deeper as they already have.

Size 14

When you read magazines, turn on your televisions, go shopping, you usually see womyn that look like this (look over to the left) or clothes that fit womyn that look like this (and slightly bigger).

The average size of the U.S. womyn is a size 14. A size 14. But yet we are bombarded with images of eerily thin womyn and are frustrated to even attempt to shop for a flattering pair of jeans. The mass media, fashion designers, and retailers seem to continue ignoring the larger population of womyn.

An article in the Los Angeles Times reported that 62% of American womyn are considered overweight. There’s nothing glamorous about this, health-wise, BUT why are we alienating these womyn? They have money, they need clothes too. It has been shown that full-figured womyn have stopped actively shopping and designers who try to take on larger sizes are eventually discouraged and do not follow through.

It’s no mystery as to why most womyn aren’t satisfied with their bodies. The media continuously picks at womyn with commercials of body-slimming supplements and “get thin quick” schemes. Womyn are  discouraged to shop because there are only a handful of stores that support sizes larger than an 8 or 10. And not to mention, the voluptuous stars that are dropping pounds by the second. There’s nothing wrong with exercising and eating healthy but a line is crossed once your motivation to change your body is the pressure of the mass media making you seem “weird.”

Thankfully some retailers and designer chains continue to support the average womyn: Lane Bryant, Wal-Mart, Kohl’s, Fashion Bug, Torrid, and Avenue. Even though this is nothing compared to the thousands of retailers and designer chains that cater to the almost non-existent population of womyn (no pun intended), they must be commended. The average womyn is usually forced to shop online where more sizes are offered. But this only becomes more frustrating due to the disadvantage of not being able to feel or try on the clothes. Oh, the alienation.

I guess my message here is to not be ashamed of your body because of what the media is trying to portray as “average.” Even though it may feel like it when you’re out in those boutiques or popular stores, you are not alone. Diet and exercise because it will make YOU feel better about yourself and/or keep you healthier. Don’t do it because the media says you don’t belong. ALL womyn are beautiful, every shape and size.

Fall= Scarves Galore!

So I’m a Whore?

Let’s take a look at a couple of scenarios:

(1) A boy, 14-15 years old, becomes sexually active. Most people will not be outraged, instead they will chalk it up to “puberty” and the natural ways of life. A young girl, same age range, becomes sexually active. It’s no longer puberty. Instead, there’s something wrong with this girl. It must be her environment, group of friends, how she was raised, or the media influencing this behavior. (2)A young, middle-aged man likes to have sex with a variety of womyn. To his male friends, he’s “the man.” To womyn, he’s just “being a man.” A young, middle-aged womyn likes to have sex with a variety of men. To men and womyn: She doesn’t value her body, she’s not worthy of respect, she’s a WHORE.

Since before Christ (yes, I believe it has been a problem that long), the double standard of sexuality has been an issue. Womyn are continuously taught to suppress their sexual needs, to suppress themselves. Human beings are naturally sexual beings, yet womyn are taught to suppress something so natural. This “double standard” applies to many aspects of a womyn’s sexuality. We shouldn’t have sex before marriage. We shouldn’t sleep with a multiple amount of men. We shouldn’t broadcast our sexual needs or be open with talking about them. But men are allowed all of the above with no objections from society.

I can’t say that this double standard is supported by only men. Womyn have a strong influence on it also. We are quick (and I’ve been guilty of it too) to judge a womyn based on her sexual history. A womyn in a sex tape, such as Kim Kardashian, is perceived as slutty because she allowed the taping. But what about Ray-J? Why is he not degraded for being a part of it, for filming it?

About two weeks ago on Twitter, I was inspired to write this post. A young girl (whose name I will not disclose to prevent more views of the video), about the age of 14, was filmed by a classmate performing oral sex on another classmate. The video quickly went viral and sparked a frenzy of vile and obscene comments. Most of my followers were bashing the young girl. Basically, her “morals” were in question. But no one took the time out to think about the two young men involved. There was a boy filming it and another boy involved in the sexual act. What about their morals? They’re just as “guilty.”

I am not an advocate of people this young engaging in sexual intercourse but the truth is, it’s happening. We can’t bash one sex. We shouldn’t be bashing anyone! We can only plan to educate young people.

The double standard seems to be so imprinted in our brains. I find myself encouraging it and having to step back and rethink. Men enjoy sex, womyn enjoy sex. Let’s get over that.